Friday, May 15, 2009

Tornado Drinking Game



In Oklahoma, Gary England is the super-star weather forecaster. His trusty sidekick, Val Castor, is a world-class and award winning storm chaser. If there's a tornado - Gary England and Val Castor will dominate Channel 9 News.

In honor of the approaching spring storm season, here is the always fun Gary England Drinking Game!

Pregame
1. Everyone selects a storm chaser other than Val Castor. Every time Gary talks to your storm chaser, you take one drink. Take two drinks every time we see footage from your storm chaser. Take four drinks if your storm chaser says "tornado on the ground."

2. Everyone selects a county other than Pottawatomie County. Every time Gary mentions your county, you take one drink. Take two drinks every time we see footage from your county. Take four drinks if a tornado touches down in your county.

One drink
1. Take one drink every time Gary says the following:
"Hook echo" | "Updraft" |
"Metro" | "Doppler radar" |
"Wall cloud" | "SkyNews 9" |
"Underground" | "Mobile home"

2. When Gary gives a list of counties, take one drink for every county in the list.

3. Take one drink every time Gary interrupts a program. Take one drink if Gary says "You're not missing any of [program name]." Take one drink when Gary says "We'll keep you advised."

Two drinks
1. Take two drinks every time Gary says the following:
"Baseball-sized hail" | "Waterloo Road" | "Pottawatomie County" | "Deer Creek High School"

2. Take two drinks every time Gary mentions the
following towns:
Altus | Burns Flat | Dill City | Gotebo | Hydro |
Lookeba | Meeker | Mulhall | Oktaha | Olustee |
Shattuck | Slaughterville | Tryon | Vici |
Waukomis | Wayne (or Payne) | Weleetka | Wetumkah

3. Take two drinks every time Gary talks to Val Castor.

Three drinks
1. Take three drinks if we see footage from Val Castor.

2. Take three drinks if we see footage from Pottawatomie County.

3. Take three drinks if Gary mentions the following:
"Immediate tornado precautions" |
"National Weather Service" |
"Mesocyclone" | "Portable Radio" | "Take shelter" |
"Tornado warning in effect until ..."

Four drinks
1. Take four drinks if SkyNews 9 must land to refuel.

2. Take four drinks if Gary issues his own tornado warning, not recognized by the NWS or says the following:
"Will someone please answer that phone?"
| "Do you see power flashes?"

3. Take four drinks if a shirt-less tornado victim is interviewed.

Finish your drink
1. Finish your drink if someone uses the word tornado as a verb or if Gary mentions the nearest cross streets to you.

2. If Gary says "We've lost Val," pour a little out for your homies and finish your drink.

Thursday, May 14, 2009

Storm's A-Comin'

Those of us that live in "Tornado Alley" don't usually need a tornado siren to tell you that you better check the weather forecast - PRONTO.

I just walked past the dining room, looked out the front windows and saw eerie looking orangish-greenish-grayish colors in the sky. Did you hear me?

Orangish-Greenish-Grayish

That's not normal.

This is what it looked like. And let me tell you, the air was warm - humid and abso-freakin-lutely still as can be. Not even a leaf moved.

Which means - UH OH.

This doesn't just mean storm - this means the conditions are ripe for wall clouds and circulation.

And I was right. This little bugger produced a tornado on the south side of Oklahoma City and as I type, is still going strong - although I am now out of harm's way. 

But for those of you who aren't from around here - if you're ever traveling through the plains and you see this - SEEK SHELTER immediately. Get off the road. Get out of your vehicle and find some place safe. Anything is safer than your car in a tornado - you will even be better off laying flat out in a ditch than staying in your vehicle.

This public service announcement, brought to you by your friendly blogger... Tammy.

Stay safe y'all.

Monday, May 11, 2009

Motherness

What a great Mother's Day. Alleycat came through with flying colors with the Poo Log - in addition to two other nuggets a book called "What Your Poo Says About You" and "How to Traumatize Your Children". Both excellent bathroom reads. And boy am I ever enjoying my Poo Log. What a bonus to find it has a strong elastic string attached to the binding so it can hang near the toilet. 

Monkey Girl and Harley Guy also came through with six Bath & Body hand soaps. Which I had ran out of. It's so nice to wash my hands after I poo with Bath & Body hand soaps. I should do a commercial for them.

I have an announcement to make. Although it's in the very, extremely preliminary stages - as in, we have filled out the application -- Harley Guy and I have decided to adopt a teenager. I know, I know - I can hear a collective sigh and wondering what the heck are we getting into as I type this. It is a teenage boy I have learned about, although at this point I can't disclose how, who has been in the foster care system since he was very young. He has lived in more homes than he can count and all he wants is for a family to call his own. A Mom, a Dad, a Family. 

He's very smart, he stays out of trouble, he wants to get a job when he turns 16 and most of all, he wants to go to college. I first found out about him over a month ago and his story has been tugging at my heart strings ever since. Generally the process for adopting a waiting child, in particular a teenage child, is faster than those wanting to adopt a perfect little baby. I am hoping we can deal with all the paperwork and classes over the summer and add this new child to our family in 3 to 4 months. Once he arrives, there is a 6 month preliminary time frame where we get to know each other and we all decide that it is a good fit for everyone, after that we can move forward with permanent adoption. 

Please keep us in your thoughts and pray that this moves along expeditiously so this young man can have a real "home" once and for all.

Friday, May 8, 2009

Talkin' Turkey

I apologize profusely for the post I did earlier. That's what happens when I get a wild idea and type "elephantitis" into Google Images just for the hell of it. I shouldn't have done that to you because I know, that is an image that won't easily leave the recesses of my mind either.

So let's talk turkey, shall we?

This big lady comes up on our porch every day. She must like it up there a little higher so she can survey all the yard plus keep an eye on the creatures behind the windows.

Even though she had looked right at me and my lens is practically pressed against the window, she didn't mind me one bit and went to cleaning her feathers.

Occasionally she'd give me a sideways glance, probably just to check to make sure I didn't switch my camera with a shotgun or something. If I was a turkey, I think I'd do the same. 

Then back to cleaning her feathers. This went on a while.

So she struts a little to the left.

And then struts a little to the right.

Before hopping down the stairs and joining the other furry and feathery animals in the yard.

I imagine this is where they talk turkey -- like reeaaaal turkey.

And if I imagine that our whole yard is kind of like a "town" for all these woodland creatures...

then this spot right here, by the feeders is definitely the "downtown" of the town. This is where everyone congregates to eat and gossip. 

Anyone else have a downtown in their yard?

I Would Rather Die

I like to think that I'm a pretty resilient person.

That I can roll with the punches and can usually see the good in just about any situation.

I've had my share of calamities - and I've managed to make it through them.

I've even had some weird diseases. Psoriasis. I have that. Right now, in it's remission stage it's just a small area on my elbows, sometimes my knees. When it's a full blown flare-up I'm covered from head to toe with scaly lesions - except for my face and my genitials.

Yes, there's even a silver lining with that - at least my face and genitals are spared from the ugly scales that my children affectionately call "Mom's Leprosy". 

But there's one thing that if I ever get it - I'm sorry family and friends. I would figure out a way to off myself. One thing I truly don't think I could live with. Do not scroll down if you've got children about or are easily grossed out.

Genital Elephantitis.


Yes, I would rather die.

Poor, poor woman.

And - sorry for this. I have no filter... really, I don't.

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Tammy's String Theory

Who doesn't love quantum physics? I mean, really... who?

String theory is a developing branch of theoretical physics that combines quantum mechanics and general relativity into a quantum theory of gravity. The strings of string theory are one-dimensional oscillating lines, but they are no longer considered fundamental to the theory, which can be formulated in terms of points or surfaces too.

Blah, blah, blah...

I have my own string theory. Care to hear it?

If you have a stray hair on your nipple, don't be surprised when you pluck that sucker if it's a long hair - like a string - that's coiled up just below the surface. And you'll keep pulling, and pulling and pulling and then wonder how the hell that happened?

I just think it's one of those freaky things that I've run across that needs to be shared.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

I Had an Episiotomy for THIS?

Mother's Day is coming up. There are no two ways around it, ladies. This is when you find out how you really measure up as a mother.

Sure, sure, in the early days the idea of motherhood was romantic. Newborn baby snuggled to bosom, cuddling, nibbling sweet little baby toes, smelling delicious baby breath and watching little puckered lips move as they try to mimic you.

That's what reeled us in. Got us hooked. Got them wrapped around our fingers. We were brainwashed.

We fell IN LOVE. 

Completely, totally, irreversibly, unconditionally ... in love.

Then they grow... and learn to walk. Worse, they learn to talk. And have their own ideas. And opinions. Then decide that you don't know anything at all. And that you're uncool. And that they don't want hugs in front of their friends.

And we put up with it, ladies, don't we? Yes, we put up with it.

Because we love them so.

Then they're grown and the childhood memories are treasured and it's wonderful when they visit you... to see how they've grown and matured.

Then the annual day comes around... MOTHER'S DAY.

Some mothers are gifted with beautiful scented candles which they can light while they relax in a luxurious bubble bath. Ahhhh.

Others receive the highly coveted Bath and Body handsoap. Nothing like fresh cucumber melon by the kitchen sink, is there? Or Lavender blossoms on the bathroom vanity - all creamy and lathery. Bath and Body bliss, I tell you.

If you've been a really grand mother, perhaps you're treated to a pedicure and massage at the spa. Shiny toenails, smooth pink feet free from dry skin and callouses. That's just what any mother needs, isn't it?

But not me.... no, not me, ladies.

I am a mother in a class all to her own.

My child decides on a unique gift for me. 

Something she's sure I'll enjoy.

 A Poo Log. Yes, a poo log. Not a log made of poo. Not even a resin cast that looks like a log of poo. Better yet, a book where you can log all of your poo activity.

Size, shape, color, consistency, did it pass with ease, what time did this occur, how often, did it smear, did it plop, did it float, did it sink, were there corn kernels in it, was it so large you needed a second episiotomy?

Seriously.

Where did I go wrong?

Friday, April 24, 2009

You Think I'm Kidding?

This is what I looked like in 2003 when I tortured myself with grilled chicken, no butter, no bread, rice and steamed vegetables for over a year.

One time I had someone tell me that they thought I looked like Finola Hughes, the actress who played "Anna" on General Hospital. Yes, her name is Finola - I know, I thought that was a weird name too. I would say Finola sounds like a Gay name - but that's too close to Enola Gayand I don't want to confuse any B-29 bomber fans.

And another time I had someone tell me that I resembled Catherine Zeta-Jones.

So I thought I'd try the face recognition software thing that compares you to celebrities. Of course, I don't look like that NOW so I didn't cheat and used a recent photo of how I look today... ahem... unlike a certain sister of mine who used an old photo. ::cough::


And this is who I look like now...


Ummm....

Obviously, not the results I was expecting. At. All.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

You Can't Make This Shit Up

(I re-posted this because the linky thing didn't work. Weird.)


My Dad refuses to admit that he needs a hearing aid. Or glasses. Or that picking up sticks before you mow is a good idea. He also gets people's names mixed up. This is an actual conversation that took place tonight, although I've changed the names to protect the innocent.

Dad: I ran into Bill and Debbie Turner at the store.

Mom: You did?

Dad: Yeah, I talked to Debbie and asked her if Bill still does (something... my short attention span skipped this part) and she just looked at me and didn't say anything.

Mom: Does Bill still do that?

Dad: I don't know, but I think Debbie's a little off or something - I'm telling you, she wasn't all there.

Mom: Does Debbie still work at the Whozit-Whatzit's? (Okay, Mom didn't say Whozit-Whatzit's, but give me a break here, I'm trying to protect the innocent.)

Dad: When did she work down there?

Mom: [getting a little irritated] She worked down there for years, you've seen her there!

Dad: She did? [confused]

Mom: [more irritated] Yes!

Dad: Who?

Mom: [another notch up the 'ol irritation ladder] Debbie!

Dad: Debbie who?

Mom: [about to burst a blood vessel] DEBBIE TURNER!

Dad: No, I'm talking about Debbie Sherman - Bill and Debbie Sherman. Not Bill and Debbie Turner.

Mom: Well you said Turner when you said you saw them.

Dad: Oh, I did?

Mom: Yes, you did.

Dad: Oh.

Mom: I think Debbie Sherman was in a wreck and got hit in the head a while back.

Dad: Yeah, that's what I was talking about - she wasn't all there, it was like she was messed up in the head or something.

[Speaking of people who were messed up in the head or something... Mom and I glanced at Dad and exchanged a smile between us. And we chuckled.

It's what families do.

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Meanwhile, I'm back in Pratt for a few days to help Dena with anything she needs. She says she needs me for comedic relief. I will try to do my best, but I think she just needs to hang out with Ma and Pa Kettle for a while - they keep me laughing.

You Can't Make This Shit Up


My Dad refuses to admit that he needs a hearing aid. Or glasses. Or that picking up sticks before you mow is a good idea. He also gets people's names mixed up. This is an actual conversation that took place tonight, although I've changed the names to protect the innocent.

Dad: I ran into Bill and Debbie Turner at the store.

Mom: You did?

Dad: Yeah, I talked to Debbie and asked her if Bill still does (something... my short attention span skipped this part) and she just looked at me and didn't say anything.

Mom: Does Bill still do that?

Dad: I don't know, but I think Debbie's a little off or something - I'm telling you, she wasn't all there.

Mom: Does Debbie still work at the Whozit-Whatzit's? (Okay, Mom didn't say Whozit-Whatzit's, but give me a break here, I'm trying to protect the innocent.)

Dad: When did she work down there?

Mom: [getting a little irritated] She worked down there for years, you've seen her there!

Dad: She did? [confused]

Mom: [more irritated] Yes!

Dad: Who?

Mom: [another notch up the 'ol irritation ladder] Debbie!

Dad: Debbie who?

Mom: [about to burst a blood vessel] DEBBIE TURNER!

Dad: No, I'm talking about Debbie Sherman - Bill and Debbie Sherman. Not Bill and Debbie Turner.

Mom: Well you said Turner when you said you saw them.

Dad: Oh, I did?

Mom: Yes, you did.

Dad: Oh.

Mom: I think Debbie Sherman was in a wreck and got hit in the head a while back.

Dad: Yeah, that's what I was talking about - she wasn't all there, it was like she was messed up in the head or something.

[Speaking of people who were messed up in the head or something... Mom and I glanced at Dad and exchanged a smile between us. And we chuckled.

It's what families do.

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Meanwhile, I'm back in Pratt for a few days to help Dena with anything she needs. She says she needs me for comedic relief. I will try to do my best, but I think she just needs to hang out with Ma and Pa Kettle for a while - they keep me laughing.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

Grief 101

Many of you have been wondering what has happened to me lately, why have I fallen off the blogosphere? Mostly, I've been busy. When the weather warms up we come out of hibernation and hop on the Harley. 

Also the paranormal group I started in August is in full swing now. We've added more members and I haven't had time to add their pictures and bios to the website yet. We've had investigations just about every weekend since the beginning of March and are already booked through mid-May with more lining up. With these investigations come hours and hours of research, video review, audio review, and compiling reports. Busy. Busy.

But I also have some sad news to share. In January some of you might remember when I got back in touch with an old friend, Dena. It was wonderful to see her and her family again and we had a blast getting caught up. We've also stayed in touch since then with long phone conversations. Her and her husband of 23 years recently moved and he was driving a semi-truck which he wasn't very happy with because it kept him away from home too much. He was hoping my husband could help him get lined up with work offshore, but hiring freezes prevented that from going anywhere.

Yesterday I received an early morning phone call. The ones that wake you up and you wonder who in the world would be calling at this hour. 

After I answered a groggy "Hello?" I heard a woman's voice sob my name and I immediately thought it was my youngest sister, Terri. In that instant, in my dark bedroom, still half-asleep, my heart hit the floor and shattered because I knew that this was a "death call". 

In the next breath, the caller sobbed that she had lost her husband and I quickly realized that it was not my sister, but Dena. I'm about to admit something that's not easy to admit - but I know this has probably happened to everyone. In the 4 or 5 seconds it took for her to tell me that she lost her husband, and while the synapses slowly fired while I tried to grasp who was calling and who had died - I experienced 3 emotions. I kid you not.

I am ashamed to admit the first emotion was sheer and utter relief that it was not one of us. By that, I mean my immediate family - a parent, a sibling, a niece or nephew. This was quickly followed by guilt - recognizing that I felt like a selfish asshole for feeling relief, when her world had just shattered. Then followed by immense sorrow for her incredible loss.

There's something about death, particularly when its' someone young, someone who died tragically and unexpected that shakes me to my very core. I think I might experience this stronger because of some very close losses I had in my teenage years. I know a little bit about grief. Too much.

I know Dena is just going through the motions now. Making arrangements. Contacting people. Taking care of business. This will keep her head on somewhat straight for the short-term. But next week, after he's buried, and everybody goes home and goes back to school and goes back to work and goes back to life as usual - she's going to sink. Because there will be no more life as usual for her. Her world has just been turned upside down and shaken.

You know how when you first fall in love with someone you begin to catalogue in your mind all the little firsts? The first date. The first movie you saw together. The first place you went out to eat. The first kiss. The first time you make love. The first vacation you take... etc, etc.

This also occurs when you lose someone you love. In the days and week after their death you begin to catalogue all the lasts. The last time you made love. The last time you said "I love you." The last shirt you saw them wear. The last shoes they wore. The last dinner they ate. The last movie they watched. The last vacation you took. The last hug. The last laugh. The last everything. Your mind involuntarily does this - you can't help it. 

The most remarkable difference about the firsts and the lasts is this....

when it happens for the first time, you're aware of it - in the moment. 

When it happens for the last time - you have absolutely no idea that it was the last time at all until later.

My wish for you - do everything like it's your last time. 
Enjoy it. 
Breathe it. 
Soak it in. 

Each and every time.

Saturday, March 28, 2009

Wildabeast on Crack

I live in Oklahoma - but the majority of my family lives in Kansas. Where they are snowed in like they have never been before. 

To see some blizzard pics that will knock your socks off, check out my Mother's Blog and my sister, Kelly's Blog.

I stole these pics from Kelly's blog because they're a good before/after shot.

This picture was taken this morning.... from her front door, she's got a covered porch that leads out to a walk with flower beds and a curving sidewalk to the driveway. What - you're not seeing all that?

Here's what it looked like just yesterday morning. Yes. Seriously.

Can you believe that? Wow.

March comes in like a lion lamb and out like a lamb lion wildabeast on crack! 

Friday, March 27, 2009

Preparing For The Storm

Like most people in the midwest, we're watching the weather for the impending snow. Forget that it has been in the 70's the last couple of weeks - we're looking at ice and maybe a foot of snow now.

Which is why we'll be holed up in a hotel. Monkey Girl is rejoicing not to be stuck at home for the entire weekend. She'll have at least one night of friends, finger-nail painting, swimming, Wii playing and fun.

We've stocked up on the necessary supplies one might need in inclement weather - like cookies, chips, gummy rolls, starburst, soda and such. Things like soup and hot chocolate during this kind of weather is sooooo over-rated.

You there - with the chili simmering on the stove top... look what we're having for dinner. We're taking dibs on who's going to have an upset tummy later. And it won't be me - there's a restaurant downstairs and Momma needs a burger.

Yep, here's where Momma will be. In her OWN room, surfing, reading a book, relaxing in the whirlpool tub... if I'm needed, I'm just a door knock and couple of steps away.

And as far as the weather? I'll be watching it. For now it's hovering around 33º and I'm waiting to see it turn to ice and then snow. What's the worst that can happen... we'll get snowed in for the weekend? Pshaw... I think I can rough it out here for a while.

By the way... thanks to Alleycat for decorating Monkey Girl's room... she was thrilled when we opened the door! And thanks for swinging my adjoining room at the last minute - you're a lifesaver!

Sunday, March 22, 2009

Free Dogs

I really think this is self-explanatory.

Wednesday, March 18, 2009

12 Year Old Monkey

Monkey Girl turned 12 years old today. The final year before the dreaded teenage years. I will enjoy it as fully as possible, because I've been through the teenage years before and they weren't fun. I imagine they'll be even less fun going through it and menopause at the same time. 

We had a big pancake, eggs, sausage, gravy & biscuits breakfast this morning. We regularly do big breakfasts on the weekend or in this case, Spring Break and Birthday. Here's Monkey Girl grooving to the tune on her birthday card.

She was surprised to receive an iPod Touch for her birthday. She knew she was getting one, but I had her convinced that it wouldn't be delivered until later this week and that I'd wrap up something small just so she'd have something to unwrap on her actual birthday.

We also have a couple of Monkey-Girls-in-Training running around here. Here's grandchild Carlie teaching me 2-year-old-speak and I figured out that "I ah mah pa cake ah gah" means "I ate my pancake all gone." All spoken words are more effective with serious facial expression and hand gestures so that the silly grown up might understand what they are plainly saying. 

Jordyn here is sure to be a class-clown and definitely the instigator of all trouble. She regularly encourages her sister, "Do it Cahley - go" and then Jordyn will giggle like nobody's business while Carlie does what she has been instructed to do.

Both of them are definitely hams and chatter-boxes and man is it ever fun and equally exhausting to have them around. We've enjoyed them for 3 days now and it will be time for them to go home today. 

Monday, March 16, 2009

Throwed Rolls

If you're ever near Branson you'll want to make a stop at Lambert's Cafe. Home of the famous and only throwed rolls. The story is that Norman Lambert was passing around rolls to the customers and he couldn't get one to a man seated in the corner fast enough, so the man told him to just throw the damn thing - he did, and the legend continues.

Some of the best rolls you'll ever eat and boy are they hot!!

We met up with my sister, Shawn and Da Man (she is Kansas Chaos blogger) and laughed til we cried, and ate til we could eat no more. Here she is trying to force the Monkey face out of Monkey Girl.

I couldn't resist taking pictures of the food - it was big. This, my friends, is a garden salad. Served in a skillet in a freakin' huge bread bowl. I think Monkey Girl managed to eat about 1/8th of it. I'd be willing to bet that it is an entire head of lettuce there.


Shawn's grilled salmon, mashed potatoes, cucumbers and onions - and the fried potatoes are a freebie. At Lambert's they have what they call "pass arounds" which is where they come around with a large stainless steel bowl of - macaroni & tomatoes, fried okra, fried potatoes & onions, etc... and just slop a spoonful onto your plate, skillet or paper towel. They'd probably put it right on your lap if you asked them. It's a very casual place.

Harley Guy had the chicken fried steak, mashed potatoes, pineapple walnut salad and carrots - I think he ate about half of that. If we had known the portions were this large, plus all the pass arounds, we would've split an entree'. But if you're super hungry... you won't leave disappointed, that's for sure.

The next day we met Shawn and Da Man in Branson and did a tour of the Titanic Museum they have there. One word - FABULOUS. The employees are in period dress and character, the museum itself has the look and feel of the titanic, rooms have been recreated to scale and it is filled with hundreds of actual artifacts from the Titanic and survivors. You're given a boarding pass with a name and general information of a passenger on the Titanic. At the end, you find out if your passenger survived or not. 

I think all of us survived except for Harley Guy - his passenger reportedly sat down and began reading a book when the Titanic was sinking. He was a writer himself, so I consider that "dying with your boots on." I'd like to know what book he was reading - because if it's so good that you choose to continue to read that over finding a life boat, then it's probably a pretty decent read, wouldn't you think?

Sunday, March 15, 2009

Craftsmanship?

We just got home from a quick weekend getaway to Branson and Springfield, Missouri. Saturday morning we found ourselves at Ripley's Believe It Or Not Museum in Branson where unusual and disturbing finds awaited us. 

One particular item attracted my attention. It is a child's sled crafted from a solid piece of wood from the mid-19th century. I am assuming this belonged to a child from a wealthy family.

And is that dear old Mum on the front, guiding the children to safety? Grandma perhaps?

Or maybe it's a wet-nurse who just had a baby snatched from her bosom? Go ahead - click on it to see it bigger... it's not a broken piece that exposes her Janet Jackson,  it was actually carved that way. 

Now I know why it landed itself in Ripley's. Things that make you go hmmmm.

Friday, March 6, 2009

Grab Your Ankles

I'm not the type of person who worries... much. Bobby Farrin's song, "Don't Worry, Be Happy" could be my personal mantra. But I think I'd have to have a lobotomy to not be somewhat concerned with the state of world affairs.

Last week a good friend of mine got laid off from a job she has had for 18 years. No fault of her own - it's economics. Mostly I'm hearing of places that are offering early retirement to those that are close to retiring and have implemented hiring freezes. 

Harley Guy works in the offshore oil industry - which is fairly secure. We hope. In the past during recessions, oil production from land drilling will take a nose-dive, but the off-shore drilling has remained fairly solid. However, even they are being cautious. Not just the economy, but also waiting to see what energy policies Obama will adopt. Will he rely more on foreign oil? Will he expand U.S. drilling? It's wait and see for the moment.

I don't think my husband will be in the path of losing his job and I realize we are fortunate, because so many are teetering on the brink of job loss. But, half of his paycheck is calculated based on production... so if production is capped or cut in any way, it will basically amount to a cut in pay - potentially a very large cut in pay.

The Sistah's Retreat for 2009 has been put on the back-burner. For some, it was matter of finding a date that worked - for others it was a financial matter - for all of us, I think the word "caution" is the word of the moment.  

For us, we are planning our family vacations around where we can go camping in the RV and doing it as economically as possible. I'm also scrutinizing how we spend our money and realize there are drastic changes that need to be made.

I just got off the phone with Cox Communications who is our vendor for cable/internet/home phone. I re-negotiated with them and was able to save $40.71 per month on our bill. I dropped Showtime, but the other services remain the same. I had heard before that if you call your Cable company that often times, they can offer you current promotions in an effort to retain your business - so if you haven't done this, you should. Just one call and I will save our household $488.52 per year.

We need to eat IN more and do less eating OUT. And when we do go out to eat, we need to check the circulars for coupons or daily specials.

I don't watch the news much because I find it depressing... so I really don't know a whole lot about what is going on - economy wise. I guess that's the sticking my head in the sand method, but it works for me. But I know it's bad and it's going to get worse. 

I hope everyone will just be able to take care of their families - that's the most important thing. The frivolous stuff - movies, bling, gadgets... we could all do with less.

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Recycling: Guardian Angel

Recycled Post Alert: This was originally posted in January 2008.
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He is. I've seen him. This isn't him, but he kind of looks like him. This is Earle Hyman.

I didn't really believe in Guardian Angels before this happened. I do now. And Guardian Angels aren't necessarily ethereal fairies with glittery wings. Mine sure wasn't. He was a crusty old black man, not quite as refined and collegiate looking as Earle Hyman. He drove a white cargo van, you know the kind with two front seats and just loading area in the back? He drank hot coffee and listen to Soul music on the radio.

For about a year in 1986-1987 I lived in Baytown, Texas and commuted daily to my low-paying clerical job in Houston. I drove Highway 146 South out of Baytown to the 225 (called the Pasadena Freeway). From there I went on to the 610 Loop heading South (then west) and exited Buffalo Speedway. Feel free to mapquest it - it's all right there.

Highway 146 merged from the north (Baytown) and the south (LaPorte) onto the 225. Now this didn't happen every single day, but I'd estimate a good 1-3 days of the week, I would merge with a white cargo van who came up from the Laporte side. We'd drive mostly side-by-side all along the 225, then onto the 610, then we'd both exit Buffalo Speedway. Only I'd turn Left and the van would turn Right. It was always the same old black man driving the van. His hair was mostly sprinkled white, cut short and the deep lines in his face would fold back like an accordian when we began recognizing each other, smiling and waving "hello" when we merged and then "goodbye" when we parted on Buffalo Speedway. Again, this didn't occur every day - but it got to where I would look for him. Sometimes driving slow in case he was behind me he could catch up. But usually, if we didn't merge at the same time, I didn't see him.

At this time, I was still driving the "no-grill mobile" from my high school days. A 1979 Plymouth Volare with a Duster package. It was white with red pinstripes, red vinyl seats (read: burning mother-f#$#@ hot in the Houston heat), NO A/C, a push-button radio... and I think that sums up the options available on this sweet baby.

This is not my car, but it looked very similar. Minus the tinting. Replace the chrome rims with factory alloy scratched to hell. Replace the gas cap with a red mechanics rag. Yes, it was a fuse - I was so dumb back then. And minus the spoiler thingy in the back.


Also minus the grill. I left mine on the sidewalk of a Dairy Queen. Who knew a brick wall would do that to a plastic grill!

Ouch. The skin on the backs of my thighs just shuddered from painful memories of parts of their former selves being melted onto the red vinyl seats just like these in the scorching 110 degree humid heat of Houston. Of course my beast didn't have the rad steering wheel, tachometer, 4 on the floor shifter and other little doo-dads this pampered car has.

I had no car insurance. I made $6.00 an hour and that only paid for my clothes, shoes and the occasional food substances I shoved into my mouth. Oh yeah, plus part of the rent my sister and her husband made me pay for living in their flea-bag, cockroach infested tiny house. Ahhh... good times.

So, back to the story.

On this particular morning I was driving to work wearing a pink and white pinstriped shirt dress with HUGE-ASS shoulder pads and a big wide white belt. Because I had a waist then. I was wearing panty house, white plastic heels that made my feet smell like Roquefort cheese at the end of the day and my long brown hair was clipped back with a big white bow barrette. Remember those? Where the bows were 2x wider than your head so it looked like you were sprouting wings out of the back of your skull? What the hell were we thinking?

I didn't see Mr. White Cargo Van guy that morning. Other than that, the drive was normal - traffic flowed well, no new alarming rattle sounds from the car other than the normal ones I had gotten used to. I exited Buffalo Speedway, probably doing about 45 mph. It's a long exit that leads to a red light. Luckily, I turn left and didn't have to try to plow across several lanes of traffic to turn right. I saw the friendly Houston Chronicle paper salesman who commandeered that corner. He also sold roses. He gave me one for free one time. Then I felt obliged to buy a paper from him every now and then. I saw a couple of cars ahead of me at the stop light, I eased onto the brake to slow down and *thud* - my pedal went all the way to the floor with no resistance whatsoever. NONE.

My heart jumped into my throat, my hands tightened onto the steering wheel, I looked from left to right - Left, concrete embankment rising to the freeway. That won't work. Right, a line of cars all stopped. Uh-uh. Straight ahead. Mr. Houston Chronicle salesman shouted his usual banter and the tail lights of some kind of truck. I could either plow over the newspaper dude or hit the truck. I closed my eyes, laid on my horn, kept the wheel straight and braced for the worst.

The worst really wasn't that bad. We all had chrome bumpers back then. No fiberglass wanna-be bumpers that splinter into shards like the cars of today. I hit the truck, he hit the car in front of him. We all got out. Surveyed a little bumper scratch in the chrome is all. Everyone was in a hurry to get to work. They left.

I didn't.

I was still shaken.

My car didn't have brakes. I wasn't about to get back in and drive it in Houston rush hour traffic. I also didn't have car insurance. I also didn't have any money. I did what any 19 year old girl would do. I sat down in my car and cried. A big slobbery cry. I wanted my Mom, 800 miles away. I wanted to call someone. I had no money. Not even enough change for a candy bar.

Then Mr. White Cargo Van pulled up beside me. Gave me a concerned look and pulled into the gas station on the corner. Meanwhile, cars are going around me honking - I had my hazard lights on, but it still caused a bit of a congestion on the exit ramp.

My old black man commuter friend whom I had never talked to up to this point came over and I told him the situation. More like I blubbered and spit out the main details. He gave me a handkerchief. It smelled a little funny. But I used it. He handed me the keys to his van, told me he would drive my car to a shop nearby where he knew the owner and I was to follow him.

"But, but..." I protested. "I have no brakes."

He just waved me on. "Don't you mind that. Just follow me, now."

I was numb. I was also naive. But my gut trusted him. My instincts have gotten me out of close calls before, but this time was different. This man was not here to harm me. Though I was very vulnerable and easily could have been lured by someone with wrong intentions.

I followed him. That's when I saw the inside of the cargo van. There were a lot of newspapers. I'm not sure if he delivered them or not. I didn't survey it for more than a second. He had a large thermos cup of hot black coffee. The kind with the screw-on lid my dad used to take on the road with him. And Marvin Gaye was singing "Let's Get It On" on the radio. Not quite appropriate for this situation, but his voice was soothing on my nerves nonetheless.

We pulled into a brake shop. I think the sign said Dan's or Danny's but I can't quite remember. I didn't see where Mr. White Cargo Van went, but my car was outside of a bay door. I sat down in the waiting area, surveying the parking lot for him. My mind was turning, wondering how I was going to pay for these brakes. I decided I would just have to write a check. It would be a hot check. I might be able to ask them to let me post date it for payday, but then if they said no, they'd know I didn't have the money. I had no one to call. My parents are like bird parents. They shove the young out of the nest and either they'll fly or they'll fall. Sure, if we fell they would help us back up eventually, but they'd wait a while to see if we could figure it out ourselves and find our own way first. My sister and her husband were also broke. And I knew no one else in Houston. Except for a few co-workers who were mere acquaintances. I hadn't been there long and hadn't made any friends. Let alone, friends good enough to loan me $100 for a brake job.

Mr. White Cargo Van came inside and told me he was in a hurry, that he'd talked to the owner of the shop and for me not to worry, they'd do a good job on getting my car fixed. And he left just as quick. I think I muttered thank you, but I'm not sure. I wanted to know his name. I wanted to know where he lived so I could make him banana bread or a big pie or something. I wanted him to know just how eternally grateful I was for him being the one human being in the world at that moment who came to my aid.

About 45 minutes passed. A guy told me my car was ready and handed me my keys. I reached into my purse for my checkbook and he waved his hands and told me that wasn't necessary. He said my friend took care of it.

What?

I didn't even know him. In fact, he told me to follow him here to this shop because he knew the owner. I asked him if he knew the guy. He shook his head, nope, never had seen him before. He paid cash. I was dumbfounded. Stupefied.

I drove on to work, two hours late, but I didn't care. I couldn't stop thinking about him.

I didn't see him on the drive home. I told my sister and brother-in-law about him.

I didn't see him on the drive to work the next day. Or the day after that. Or the day after that.

Or the whole six months I lived there after this incident. I would even drive up and down that freeway on my days off at certain times of the day hoping to find Mr. White Cargo Van again. It was like he vanished. Twenty-two years later and I still think about him from time to time.

Occasionally I think I see him, but I think it's just my mind playing tricks on me. Kind of like when you recognize someone's gait, the way they walk, and it matches a loved one who has passed on, but for just a fleeting moment your heart jumps and you think "It's him!" (or her). It's kind of like that. I have grieved him like I have grieved other losses in my life. Although, I'm not sure if he ever left or if he's still with me, guiding me sometimes.

To this day I have a fondness for old black men. I'm secretly in love with Morgan Freeman. There, I said it. I would marry him if he asked. (Sorry, hubby - it won't happen, I promise.) Morgan Freeman just has that wise, yet friendly and approachable look about him. His demeanor reminds me of My old black man. But Earle Hyman looks more like him in the face.

Combine the two and you've got him... My Guardian Angel.

So if you ever see an old black man driving a white cargo van, tell him I said "thank you" and that I love him. *sniff*

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Sick Dogs - Hurt Kid

All three of our dogs are sick. Alleycat comes over quite often with a friend of hers who's really a neat kid - I enjoy it when they come over. Alleycat usually brings her shih-tzu, Chappy, with her so he can play with our dogs while she's here. 

Prissy, our 8 year old Rat Terrier.

About 2 weeks ago Alleycat came over with Chappy and she brought her friend along who had just gotten a dog that day from an animal rescue place. A cute little guy named Mikey who was very underweight and scruffy looking - but he adored his gentle new owner and didn't want to leave her side.

Bubbles, our 11 year old Lhasa Apso.

A couple of days later, Mikey, the adopted dog began coughing and wheezing. Also another family dog began getting sick as well. Kennel cough. When Alleycat told me about this, I had noticed that Prissy was doing a lot of hacking lately, like something was caught in her throat, but it didn't quite strike me as a "cough". She continued doing that occasionally for a few days and then Bubbles started hacking. So I figured they were probably sick and made an appointment for them at the vet.

Ein, our 6 year old Corgi.

Meanwhile, Ein seemed to be feeling alright. When I took the other two to the vet Tuesday I asked him if some dogs wouldn't catch the highly contagious kennel cough. He said perhaps Ein wouldn't catch it if she had been previously exposed to it, but most dogs will catch it if they haven't gotten the bordatella vaccination recently. He dispensed shots to the two dogs and they each have two medicines to take for 10 days and he said if Ein began showing symptoms, that he would just get some medicine ready for me to pick up - he wouldn't need an exam because the other two clearly have kennel cough. 

We had just gotten home from the vet and Monkey Girl took Ein out for a walk and when they returned, Ein was hacking and wheezing. I thought OH JEEZ... here we go. I called the vet's office, which I had just left and the receptionist laughed and said after we left the doctor commented, "Wanna take bets on how long it'll be before that lady calls needing medicine for her other dog?" LOL

And if that weren't enough - last week Monkey Girl took a hard tumble on concrete and slid on her face. It happened when she was waiting for the school bus and monkeying around, as Monkey Girls do. She was holding her book bag and didn't get her hands out fast enough to break her fall... so her face took the full force of it.


This picture was taken shortly after I picked her up from school and she hadn't started swelling much yet. She looked a whole lot worse the next day. She was very lucky that she didn't break her nose or chip a tooth. She asked me not to blog about it last week because she was very sensitive about how she looked, but now she's alright with it. She's got a fair amount of scabs on her face now, but things seem to be healing up nicely.

I know I haven't been blogging much lately - nor have I been visiting very many blogs. It just seems to have been busy lately - kids, dogs, housework, doctor appointments, ghost hunting... just life in general. So bear with me, I'm not gone for good - I'll keep popping in from time to time.